I was really hoping that the next time I blogged it would be to announce the birth of our son. But alas, we are still waiting. I went to the OB appointment with birth mom on Thursday, 7/2. She is progressing nicely, fully effaced and 4 cm dilated. She is quite uncomfortable and really wants to deliver soon! The physician did a procedure called stripping the membranes, which often times help induce labor within 24-48 hours. So of course we have been very excited the last 2 days thinking the baby might make his arrival...but no such luck.
The baby is not officially due until 7/11/09. We have another appointment on Thursday, 7/9. If she makes it that long the physician has offered to induce labor, and birth mom has readily agreed. So we do have an end date planned...7/9/09!
The waiting has been hard and for so many reasons. We have been in the adoption process for a long time. A normal nine month pregnancy is one thing, but when a family is created via alternative methods, the wait can be excruciatingly long. A friend of mine is a documentary film maker and in one of his films, "Daddy and Papa" there is a great scene where one man is speaking with his partner about the frustrations of the adoption process. He speaks of all the extra hoops we as LGBT parents must jump. The paper work, the home studies, the reference checks, the background checks, the financial costs, etc, etc, etc. He says something similar to "you know, all of this really pisses me off. All straight people have to do is f#@k! and they get a baby!"
What I really want people unfamiliar to the process to know is that yes, it IS a long and arduous path to choose. Yes it is expensive. Yes it is difficult. Yes it is psychologically, physically, mentally, and spiritually exhausting. But if the process isn't a testament to the desire of wanting a family, then I don't know what is. So come on baby Nico, your two daddies are ready. We are ready with all the love, guidance and support you will ever need.
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